As I write this (at 21:45 EDM on September 24, 2017), Patrick Fox of Burnaby, BC is awaiting sentencing for his conviction of having criminally harassed his ex-wife: https://marnietunay2.wordpress.com/2016/02/18/warning-dont-get-involved-in-any-way-with-patrick-fox-of-burnaby-b-c/ Although I’ve never met Mr. Fox, he would appear to me to be suffering from borderline personality on the face of it. He’s not remorseful at all for having made his ex-wife’s life hell, to say nothing of his own young son’s life by persecuting the boy’s mother, as you can see from my own exchanges with him in the comments section on that post (above), and from reading the news reports of his trial.
He will probably go to prison, and it’s easy to say ‘good riddance.’ But what will happen to him in prison? Will he get effective therapy there? Probably not. Borderline-personality sufferers are notoriously difficult to treat effectively.
Now, one of my own Facebook contacts, a Toronto hypnotherapist by the name of Allan Clews, has just posted a series of videos on a treatment for borderline personality, called ‘Dialectical Behavior Therapy,’ or DBT, which he says is “the only thing that has been scientifically proven to help those suffering from Borderline Personality;” and he has kindly given me permission to re-post his post here on wordpress: https://www.facebook.com/allan.clews/posts/10215792177023764
Now I think you might need a Facebook profile to view that post, and not everybody has facebook, of course; so I am also going to take the liberty of embedding the first of his short videos here directly from youtube, so that anyone who can’t see the facebook post can hopefully link to the videos from youtube:
So that’s one point of reference that may be helpful, and for those who are suffering from the sufferers of borderline personality and who may have decided that enough is enough, here is a useful book on divorcing a spouse who’s borderline. Wordpress doesn’t like it when I link to Amazon here, but the book is readily available there. It’s called ‘Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder,’ written by Bill Eddy and Randi Kreger, and published in 2011. I’ve read it and it’s loaded with useful tips on dealing with people with those disorders, even if you’re not married to one of them.